Hello and happy weekend! Today the post is not about fashion, family or work is about something that I have been experiencing more than ever since the moment that i got pregnant: judgement from other women. Disclosure: this post might be a little cheesy and hormone driven but I wanted to know if someone of you have experienced the same thing.
I don’t what it is about being pregnant that even the most random people that I have not seen in years or have not even met before feel entitled to ask as many questions as they want. Are you going to breastfeed? For how long? How long will you take off work? Are you really going to have a nanny help you instead of raising your baby yourself? Just a couple of examples of the many questions I have been asked… Questions, no problem but when the answer is something different that what the person asking the question thinks is right some people try to convince you of the opposite or just plainly disapprove. Men & women both ask the questions but women are so quick to portray their judgement! Lately I have been asking myself why do we judge one another instead of understanding that we all in the end want to do what’s best & be happy and we all have different paths to get there – I want to consciously choose support before judgement.
In the beginning I allowed these comments to hurt me and to even make me question if what I was doing was wrong. Now after a lot of thought and support from my family and close friends I know I should learn to listen to opinions with an open heart, take what I think is right for me, ignore the rest, and be thankful for the advice. In the end, I am going to make my own decisions, I am going to choose what works for me and my family. Trying to please everyone becomes exhausting.
So my advice would be to free yourself from caring so much about what others think! In the end, you are the one living the consequences of your actions… not them. Focus on being happy! Ask yourself constantly what do you need to be happy, and do it. I believe that by focusing on ourselves first we are able to be better wives, moms, and friends.
Finally, let’s all try support each other and understand that what works for some might not for others and that is completely fine.
Thanks for stopping by and I hope you have an amazing weekend!
You look marvelous and I am so happy that you have such a positive attitude about this! The constant judgment was rough and continues to be annoying to me, but I am also trying to focus on my baby and family and what I think is best. The reward when he smiles at me or is comforted by me makes it ALL WORTHWHILE. You will be an amazing mama!!!
That’s right. People will always have something to say. Who cares? Who asked you? We have to learn to give advice when asked. Sometimes we just someone to listen and keep it moving.
“In the end, I am going to make my own decisions.” Awesome!
Awesome Lorena…and so true! This is exactly what we were talking about last weekend. Do what makes you happy and what is right for YOUR family! Xoxo